Positive Linking eZine: April 27, 2018

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Volume 171 | 27 April 2018

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Hello there %$firstname$%,

Well, I’ve been laying low for a while now. Writing my second book whilst running a full mentoring and training practice, leaves little wiggle room for other things! I’ve found it hard at times to sit myself down and focus on my book and it’s a very different experience to writing my first which I did in 2011. This time there’s more detail to add, more stories to tell and I have a much bigger business than I did back then. It feels an important time to lay out a pathway – a tried and tested one – for corporate women just like you %$firstname$%, to follow to keep your career moving forwards, without selling your soul. I did make time to see one of my besties Ellen, who I’ve only known for 43 years – we always have so much to talk about!

As I sit down and write, I have in my mind one or two women clients and I write as if I’m speaking to them. It’s not about being the guru who knows everything – I know I’m not and never have claimed to be – it’s about sharing the thinking, strategies, language, experience and moves which I know really work and making them easy to follow. Oh, and daring the reader – which may well be you too one day soon – to get on and do it, to go for what it is you want out of your career but have my book as a handy reference and guide.

Setting myself the deadline of finishing all the content within the next 8 weeks, or less, is planned too. If I don’t have a date or a deadline to head towards, I find I can wiggle out of focussing and things slip. If, however, I pick a date – I always pick a date for things I want to have happen or make happen – then I find I’m like a one of our hounds when we’re out walking and they pick up a movement in the woods and they’re off like a shot, towards it.

Do you do that %$firstname$%? Do you choose to give yourself a deadline which makes you go for things? If you don’t already, try it. It’s magic! Now, off I go. I’ve got writing to do.

Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work.

Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,


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PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.

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Writing My Second Book – Title TBA

(Sample from a Principle below for you)

Accountability is something I value myself – someone keeping an eye on your progress, paying attention to how you’re developing things you want to make happen – and I have a few Accountability Buddies now I’m writing my second book. You are one of them %$firstname$%!

I’ve already booked the Launch Party in London for the evening of Thursday 4th October and will invite clients, connections, friends, family to celebrate. Maybe that will include you?

I’m now just over 75% there and am mid-way through writing Principle 6 of 8.

Like everything, you get out what you put in and I’m pouring my experience, client stories, strategies and inspirations into this book about continual, strategic career success for women. Stay tuned!

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Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Rolling the dice on your career moves

It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

The multi-million dollar question, as is said – should I stay or should I go? How do we ever know if what we’re doing is the right thing until we’ve done it and got going enough to find out? The question I would counter this particular enquiry with is this. “How will you feel if you are where you are in 12 months time and things are the same and you’re another year older?” You might counter this with “You know what, with all I’ve got going on, actually it will be alright for me. I just need to get more out of what I’m doing” or that kind of thinking and if that’s you, then I agree too.

I’m not an advocate of moving roles, organisations or industries for the sake of it or to prove the point that you can, it’s about what feels right for you. It’s about you knowing how you feel about what you’re doing, how long you can see yourself doing it for and your appetite to take a chance on yourself, to back yourself and to roll the dice on your career progress.

If you think of any big move you’ve made in your life – getting married, having a child, changing roles so far, buying a home, selling a home – all big moves which affect all areas of your life. These decisions were made with the same conscious and sub-conscious influences which you use to decide if or when you’ll make a career move. You’ve followed that guidance and then rolled the dice. See what I mean below, I know I look at things through these lenses.

  • What will this do for me?

  • How do I know I’m ready and feel right about it?

  • What are the benefits to doing this?

  • What are the risks and how will I handle them?

  • How will this decision affect others?

  • Can I see myself being happy with things as they are?

  • What would I tell someone else to do if they asked me for advice?

Once you’ve sense-checked yourself and taken a good look at your responses to the above questions you’ll know if it’s time to roll the dice again and take that leap of faith.

It’s not always the time – in fact rarely ever – the perfect time. Most of the time though, it’s worth really closely considering.

(Extracted from Kay White’s 2nd Book – Title, TBA)

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Sarah was a Business Development Manager at a UK University who invited me to host a 2-day suite of workshops for a group of public sector senior executives and CEOs. Sarah was very much involved in ensuring the content was, as she said “high end” as the participants had particularly high expectations of getting value for their time away from their desks. 

Delivering and designing the Masterclass for Sarah’s clients entitled “Communicating with Influence in the Public Sector” Sarah gives the following feedback:

“Having participated in this workshop myself I highly recommend Kay – I learned a lot and came away with tools and ideas to use straight away to help me communicate more clearly, effectively and influentially.

We received excellent feedback from the participants following Kay’s Executive Masterclass – some saying it was one of the highlights of the two days with us.

Kay is an engaging, credible and creative facilitator, who really knows her stuff – she’s also good fun!”

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S is for Sarah – with her savvy, subtle, skillset.

For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day AND, see below for your Power List.

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Back Up (Your Computer Hard drive)

It’s so easy to think you’ll be OK and that you’ve got nothing to worry about. I learned the hard way a few years ago that my hard drive needs regularly backing up.

When I think of the precious intellectual property I’ve created over the years, let alone the thousands of photos I have on my various machines, I must have been mad to have just assumed all was always OK.

Having had a coffee blowout all over my Dell at the time, since 2010 I’ve regularly backed up my Mac in 2 different ways and one of them outside of my home office.

When I worked in the insurance industry, we used to say buying extra insurance cover was investing in ’stronger underwear’ or ‘a belt and braces’ and it is %$firstname$%.

Why would you want to ‘go Commando’ when it involves your precious data, musings, photos and information.

Back. It. Up.

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Savvy Style & Sparkle Soundbite

Take TED & YOU Time

Instead of trawling Netflix or the myriad of channels on the TV these days to find something to watch which relaxes you, or gives you a moment of respite, remember you have TED Talks at your fingertips, 24/7. On any of your devices, you can just choose and watch and learn.

TED is a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks (18 minutes or less). TED began in 1984 as a conference where Technology, Entertainment and Design converged, and today covers almost all topics — from science to business to global issues — in more than 100 languages.

Here’s a link to the 11 ‘Must See’ TED talks from the hundreds to choose from. It’s a place to start. Enjoy. I do and Amy Cuddy and Brene Brown (in the Top 11) and their teachings have been game changers for me and my business.

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About Kay

Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert for Ambitious Women in Business, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.

Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.

Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.

Comfortable on her feet, Kay regularly hosts Live Events (for 5 years, her annual 3-Day Live Event – Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE – has shown corporate career women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards, all without selling their souls). Stay tuned for news about a suite of Day of Magic Experience Events for 2018.

Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com

Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.

Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.

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