Positive Linking eZine: July 28, 2017

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Volume 155 |  28 July 2017 

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Hello there %$firstname$%,

Snowy and I have just returned from a 2 week break away and crikey, what a great feeling it is to be back. Not because we didn’t have a fabulous time – we did – but because we had a break! We had a week in Dubrovnik in Croatia where it was scorchingly hot and so picturesque. The medieval city of Dubrovnik dates back to the 15th Century and attracts millions of people each year. Happily, we were earlier than ‘high’ season but still it was buzzing. We took a boat around the local islands, snoozed in the shade, ate and drank really well and slept, on average, 10 hours a night. For us that’s a pretty special recipe. We then had a couple of days in London and then off to our place on the Suffolk seaside here in the UK.

It’s interesting to hear how other people choose to use their holiday time and I never assume anyone’s holiday is better than another. My drum teacher Neil was telling me about how much he’s looking forward to going camping in their tent for 10 days, another friend is hiking in the North of Scotland, another staying at home to decorate. It is %$firstname$%, as with all things, a matter of choice and circumstances. What works for you may be someone else’s worst nightmare (tents and me, not my ideal at all) and that’s the thing when recommending experiences to others.

I’m always careful to avoid “Oh you must go to ‘insert-place-name’ it’s so lovely and we had a great time’. It’s much more useful to ask what people like, what they have in mind, what is their idea of a great holiday….it’s going to be different to yours most likely and that’s OK!

One of the benefits of going away early in our holiday season is that when we come home, as now, everyone else is setting off and it’s lovely and quiet around and about. We did cause a bit of excitement on our local Boating lake. Jeffrey and I were passengers as Snowy took the helm and started rowing. Without any instructions, we set off but didn’t have a clue how to steer. With many people sitting watching and eating ice creams at the side of the lake, Snowy rowed us in a 360 degree circle. He eventually saw the funny side of it too…

Remember %$firstname$%, always be true to yourself – no one else can be the unique, one-off, multi-faceted person you are! No one.

Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work.

Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,


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PS – Oscar Wilde Said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.

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If you know you need to step up and accelerate your success at work AND allow yourself to be seen, valued and heard – do be there in October. Here’s the date and it will be in London again. Join me LIVE and learn with and from other ambitious, experienced women like you.

AND it will be the FINAL Event in this formation I host. 

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>> 5, 6, 7 October 2017.

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You can Register for just £197 until 11th August when the investment increases to £247. AND if you Register before 11th August you’ll also receive a private invitation to a call I’m hosting about identifying and leveraging your transferrable skills. Understanding these enables you to switch roles/organisations/industries with more confidence and ease.

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How “Out of the Office” are YOU?

How to show up and sparkle at work – even when you’re on holiday.

“It’s the dilemma that’s so common now – when you’re “Out of the Office” just how “Out” of the office are you?

With the holiday season upon us, this is a timely way to plan your exit strategy and still look after your connections.

Having collected some ‘jaw-droppingly bad’ Out-of-Office bouncebacks over the years (best one: “I’m away from the office so contact me again on my return” – No dates, no alternatives, no clue) I thought it would be useful for you to use a simple structure for your email ‘Out of Office’ bounceback.

The simple-to-follow formula of Acknowledge/Inform/Guide is the most efficient and most helpful to the recipient. It’s also the safest bet to enable you to come across to your clients, customers and colleagues as professional, helpful and thoughtful – even when you’re not there.

Depending on how you’ve decided to manage being away, I suggest doing one of the following:

Read your emails regularly whilst you’re away, twice per day for example.

Have someone read them and then sort out the ones you need to read when you return.

Read them only when you return.

1. Reading your emails regularly while you’re away

  • Acknowledge: Thanks for your message and I’m away from the office until Month, Date.

  • Inform: I’ll be reading and responding to my emails in the meantime and will do this twice per day.

  • Guide: If your message is urgent and you need immediate assistance, please email John Smith, Title, who will help you. You can email him at — or call him on 123 456 7890. Thanks again, Your Name.

2. Someone’s reading them, sorting out the ones you need to read on your return

  • Acknowledge: Thanks for your message and I’m away from the office until August X.

  • Inform: My colleague, Jim Smith, Title will be accessing my emails during my absence and will ensure any requiring urgent attention, are handled while I’m away.

  • Guide: If you want to speak to Jim Smith or call him direct while I’m away, he can be contacted at —– or you can call him on 123 456 7890

3. Read them only when you return

  • Acknowledge: Thanks for your message and I’m out-of-the-office on holiday at the moment.

  • Inform: I will return to the office again on August X and in the meantime have no access to my emails

  • Guide: If you require immediate assistance, please contact Jane Smith, Title, who will be happy to help you. You can email Jane at jane@emailaddress.com ——- or call her direct on: 123 456 7890. Thanks again, Your Name.

There’s always a balance to achieve and to weigh up how your emails impact your time away is a decision you have to make yourself. There’s always a rub!

If you decide to read them and respond to them while you’re away, I suggest you agree you’ll read them and respond to them for a certain period of time, say an hour, every day at the same time. Plans can then be made around that and you can tell people when you’ll get back to them. Managing their and your holiday companions’ expectations too is key.

Help yourself by discussing this first with everyone you’re on holiday with just makes it easy for them to understand and let you get on with it. Trying to do it between trips or sneaking on to your smart-phone between meals just becomes stressful and can antagonise your family and friends. Much easier to manage their and your clients and colleagues’ expectation.

You may, or may not agree but this quote sums up the point here:

“Time for work – yet take much holiday, for art’s and friendship’s sake”. George de Wilde

So, I hope for your own art and friendships, you take much holiday %$firstname$%.

I’d love to hear what you think. You can leave me a comment or a note here.

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“Article reproduced with permission of Kay White, Savvy & Influential Communication Expert and Mentor at www.kaywhite.com.

Kay shows experienced – and often frustrated – business women (and very smart men) how to be heard and understood by accessorising their day-to-day interactions with subtle, influential phrases and words to make people sit up, listen and take action. Kay’s book, The A to Z of Being Understood is an international #1 Bestseller: http://amzn.to/kTJYdX and helps professionals make their voices heard and their conversations really count.”

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“No more hiding or holding back for me.” 

“By being here at Kay’s 3-Day Event, by making myself vulnerable and sharing a little of my story with these wonderful women AND by learning how to have more courage, that’s it. No more hiding or holding back for me. I have some big changes to make at work and I’m committed now to making them happen.

Give yourself the gift of the time to learn and grow in such a safe, welcoming and inspirational environment. I’ve come with a friend who has quietly been having an epiphany next to me at the Event.

Women have been having ‘Aha’ moments all the way through because Kay holds a mirror up to you for you to see how your behaviours, beliefs and actions affect your results and what you can do to accelerate and change them….if you want to. I do – don’t you?”


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L is for Lindsey and for Lightness, Leverage, Lustre

For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day.

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Keep Calm & Say The Tough Stuff

Do you tippy toe around people and end up getting tongue-tied and frustrated when you have a sensitive situation and should be addressing things head on?

Are you fed up of being at everyone’s beck and call and know you’re either too flexible or easy-going OR scared to say what needs to be said?

I recently hosted a 90 minute tele class giving you strategies, mindsets, exact words and phrases and the courage to keep calm and still say the tough stuff.

The call was called “How On Earth Do I Tell Them THAT?” and you can still Register to receive a copy of the recording. Only for the next 7 days then it goes away.

“How On Earth Do I Tell Them THAT?”

Let me show you how to address those tricky situations which can have you fretting at night, so you say what needs to be said, assert yourself and your opinion AND maintain your composure and the relationship at the same time.

Here’s where you can Register for the recording AND the Handy Handout which comes with it.

One of my gifts is breaking things down into manageable, understandable and implementable chunks. I have 7 Steps to share with you which spell the word ‘RESPECT’. No more hiding out for you or missing out on things because others who speak louder or push themselves forward get the glory.

Be assertive, considered AND respectful and still get what you want. Let me show you have to make ‘saying the tough stuff’ easier for you. Register now as the recording goes away on 4th August.

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Quick. Tidy. Efficient.

3 words I LOVE (and a bag plan)

As someone who loves, loves, loves her handbags and changes them over regularly, depending on my mood and outfit, this is a sparkly ‘must have’ for you.

A handy bag which you pop all your bits and bobs into and then just lift in and out of any handbag or purse you choose to use that day! Saves time and losing things.

Oh and as for accessorising and the impact of it all, more on that at Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE in October. Let me show you LIVE and in person the difference it makes to your confidence, credibility AND earning power.

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About Kay

Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert for Ambitious Women in Business, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.

Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.

Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.

Hosting an annual 3-day Live Event for corporate career women “Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE” Kay encourages and shows women how to be the best, most valuable version of themselves so they’re ready to be paid what their worth and go for what they want with certainty. Crucially too, how to have more ease and more fun as you plan your way forward.

Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com

Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside. Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.

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