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Positive Linking eZine: November 2, 2018
Volume 183 | 2 November 2018
Hello there %$firstname$%,
Well, having had a chest infection last week, despite having a sociable old time of late, this week has been quiet. Quiet with a capital Q. I have a susceptibility to chest infections having had pneumonia in 2016 and as a result, when I start to cough and splutter I pay very close attention. I put myself to bed in fact and the Doc prescribed an immediate course of antibiotics. No Chablis or Champagne for me.
It’s interesting isn’t it %$firstname$% how we can have these heightened times of activity (my book launch, a new set of client groups to start rolling, friends’ birthday parties) and then – when you take your foot off the gas – a nosedive into some form of illness, cold or the like. What has been so useful during this time of recovery is seeing where and if I can run my business from my bed when needed! Yes, I can – to a point. I hosted a Webinar in my pyjamas last week plus took client calls from my bed, all wrapped up in a furry shawl.
No one had to know and I didn’t care to share. I rescheduled many things and planned out others whilst reading and sleeping for 10 hour stretches. It’s amazing how our bodies show us how to behave and if we ignore it, it takes our legs away…I hope you’re paying attention to what your body’s telling you %$firstname$%. As ever, I am.
Before I nosedived, Snowy and I had a lovely weekend in London and we saw the classic Oscar Wilde play The Importance of Being Earnest. Clever, cutting, classic fun.
Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work. There’s no time to do this like the present which is, after all, all we have guaranteed…
Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,
Let’s connect even more
PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
It’s Always Your Move by Kay White
It’s Always Your Move – Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women.
Launching my new book LIVE on 4th October and then watching as it became an international number 1 bestseller has been emotional to say the least. I can still see myself writing away over weekends, in the evenings, over Bank Holidays and being so absorbed I often forgot what time it was or what day of the week it was.
It’s Always Your Move – Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women is a road map, a guide when sometimes it can be too murky to see what next career move to make which makes sense to you. Not to others, but to you %$firstname$%.
If you’d like your copy here’s where you can buy it and VERY SOON, it will be released as a Kindle download. I’ve been asked to record the Audiobook which I will in 2019.
Pacing myself %$firstname$%.
Watch Your Pace When Speaking
It affects IF or HOW people listen to you.
Pace, what do I mean by that?
Being used to hosting webinars, tele seminars and Live Events, so much is about your rate and your speed of delivery. So many clients of mine race through their content, their ideas, their input and, the truth is, a lot of the time they’ll be tuned out by those who they need to listen to them most.
People lose interests, they can’t process the information quickly enough so lose your thread, they aren’t given enough time or interest to stay tuned in. It makes a big difference to if or how people listen to you if you take the time – choose to take the time – to vary your pace. Your speed. Your way of delivery.
Now when I’m speaking on stage, on group client calls, I’m very conscious of pacing myself, and in pace also comes your speed of response. Your speed of speaking, your speed of action, and deciding on a non-action. Just as well as how and if you decide to speak or respond.
Here are 5 quick and dirty scenarios and tips to help you pace yourself day-to-day both at work and at home:
When you’re asked a question, wherever you are, take a moment. Draw breath. Don’t just respond as if you’ve had a tennis ball fired at you. Choose what you’ll say. Buy time with “hmm, that’s a great question, in my opinion …” or “tell me more about what you want to know”. Pacing the other person at the same time. Aha!
When you’re telling a story, wherever you are. Pause, speed up with detail and then slow down with the point, the lesson. It adds impact and it gives you a chance to catch up with yourself.
When you’re on a conference call. Know the organiser’s name and use it as you jump in. “John, that’s a great point” not just “err can I just say something?”. Even better, “Hi there John, this is Kay White from London, this is how I think we should go” etc.
From the stage/a presentation. When you’re introduced, take a moment. 2 or 3 seconds to steady yourself, look at people, give them a sign which says, “I’ll start when I’m ready” and it’s amazing the difference it makes. An experienced musician, a pianist for example, sits, looks at the keys, moves on the seat, takes a breath, then starts. Not leaping on stage and starting straight away. The moment needs build up and the pianist knows the audience needs to settle too.
When you’re running a meeting. Rather than feel you have to know everything, ask questions around the table, use people’s names to hook attention and to keep people on track “with 10 minutes left, let’s move on to X” – pacing yourself and your colleagues at the same time.
There are a myriad of other scenarios and tactics you can use. You get the idea though.
Pacing yourself, slowing it down, positioning and settling yourself before you dive in with your thoughts is strategic. It gets and keeps attention and it helps you be more present to what’s actually happening. Now that really is strategic.
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Shine On Shannon!
“You’ve really made such a difference to my perspective, both of myself and of how (I thought) others perceive me. I’m dressing better – more classy/sophisticated – and I’m accessorising and loving it. I never used to be in to accessories but I’m using subtle ones and I really have noticed that they do make a difference. My posture has improved and it feels so different and fantastic walking with my shoulders comfortably held back, facing the world straight on and with a smile.
In situations where I might have previously felt a little intimidated or frustrated even, I’m feeling more like a woman than a somewhat inadequate girl. I’m generally feeling a lot more positive about knowing when and how to say my piece and be heard, rather than just throwing in the towel and thinking ahhh forget it.
What I have learned from you already has bought the expression ‘Behaviour breeds behaviour’ to a whole new level. I thank you!”
Shannon D. New Zealand (attended my 3-Day Live Event)
S is for Shannon and also for Smart, Stylish, Savvy
For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day AND, see below for your Power List.
Take That – and learn from Gary Barlow!
Whilst I was in bed with the lurgy, I read from cover to cover Gary Barlow’s recently-released autobiography A Better Me.
I’d always been fond of Take That and their music and Gary Barlow’s singing and immense songwriting skills have always been impressive but the book – well, that was such a great read. His honesty about struggling with his weight, diets, media comments about his weight plus the huge shifts in his personal life really held my attention.
The decisions he made about how to eat going forward have affected me and some of what he recommended, I’ve already taken action too. And as for his commitment to music from his very early years, it’s a testament to immersing yourself in what you love to do. In what you can’t not do in fact.
This may or may not interest you in the least %$firstname$% but, as ever, showing up and sharing something which may give you a new take on things is what this little section is all about. I’m always open to what you might recommend to me too %$firstname$%.
Just hit ‘reply’ to this email and let me know what you recommend which would fit in this section! I’m open and would love to hear from you.
Savvy Style & Sparkle Soundbite
Call (or Pop Over)!
It’s surprisingly effective.
So often we limber up to write an email or text someone a quick message. Instead – I dare you – call them!
Go the personal route and see what happens. Often people are so pleased to hear you and not receive yet another message of some form it’s a game-changer as far as how connected you and they feel.
Proximity-wise, if it’s possible, drop round. Either personally to see someone or to their desk. Emailing people across the office has its place at times and, be the one who gets up and pops by. It’s a big piece which adds to your visibility and your connection.
You might think it takes longer but – in the long run – it often makes things happen more quickly.
Go on. Call or pop around when you wouldn’t normally and notice what you notice….connection in this life is, I believe, EVERYTHING.
Known as the Smart Career Moves Mentor for Ambitious Corporate Career Women, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.
Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.
Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.
Comfortable on her feet, Kay regularly hosts Live Events (for 5 years, her annual 3-Day Live Event – Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE – has shown corporate career women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards, all without selling their souls).
Kay is author of the two International Number 1 Best-Sellers, “The A to Z of Being Understood” and the recently launched “It’s Always Your Move” – you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com
Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.
Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.