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Positive Linking eZine: October 19, 2018
Volume 182 | 19 October 2018
Hello there %$firstname$%,
Well, it’s been a really emotional, exciting and surprising time of late. My book was launched ‘officially’ Live In London on 4th October and I was so excited *and a little anxious too* to be hosted at Willis Towers Watson’s London HQ in the City – the organisation I worked for for over 20 years, back in the day. I shared about how and why the book came to life and some of the twists and turns it all involved (and still does).
So many clients and connections were there in the room and a couple of my best buddies Ellen and Karen came too to support me. Also my Client Concierge Caroline, my PA Helen and Snowy, of course, was there as my invisible handrail and one of only two men in the room!
What’s been so special during all this time %$firstname$% is to be so open to how things are evolving and not be too ‘fixed’ in how they should be.
I nearly lost my voice (took medicine and slept a lot), had to re-think the timings a couple of times of how the launch would work (stay flexible) and then, on the day my book became an International Number 1 Bestseller in the US and the UK (slightly overawed) I nearly was involved in a car accident (a very near miss by someone switching lanes nearly straight in to the side of me) and then hosted a tele seminar for an international bank (still in my gym kit as I didn’t have time to shower) – all on the same day.
This isn’t to impress you in any way but more to encourage you to consider how to stay fixed in what you want to achieve (a swimming lesson, a great launch, a number 1 bestseller, a profitable tele seminar) but stay loose as to how it comes together. I slept solidly for 10 hours that night…
If you’d like to hear some of the backstories and lessons from my recent book launch plus give yourself a BIG 2019 career confidence boost, then do register yourself below for my upcoming Webinar about just that. I’ll be staying loose for that too %$firstname$% as I’ve never hosted one of those before but hey, how hard can it be?!
Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work. There’s no time to do this like the present which is, after all, all we have guaranteed…
Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,
Let’s connect even more
PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
It’s Always Your Move by Kay White
It’s Always Your Move – Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women.
Launching the book LIVE on 4th October and then watching as it became an international number 1 bestseller has been emotional to say the least. I can still see myself writing away over weekends, in the evenings, over Bank Holidays and being so absorbed I often forgot what time it was or what day of the week it was.
It’s Always Your Move – Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women is a road map, a guide when sometimes it can be too murky to see what next career move to make which makes sense to you. Not to others, but to you %$firstname$%.
If you’d like your copy here’s where you can buy it and I’ll be so grateful if you leave me a Review so it will encourage other women who haven’t met/heard of me to buy it too and help them propel their careers forward by driving the bus at work. It’s been quite a ride from landing on the idea to here!
Your BIG 2019 Career Confidence Boost
(& book backstories & lessons)
On Thursday 25th October, join me LIVE on a Complimentary Webinar where I’ll be sharing some of the stories, lessons and behind-the-scenes (at times shocking) moments, some which will make you laugh aloud and others which will make you gasp. SO many career confidence lessons in there for you %$firstname$%.
The lessons are what I want to give you %$firstname$% and the boost for your 2019 career moves too.
Women left the live launch earlier this month with immediate “I’m doing just that Kay” moments and let me share with you on this Complimentary Webinar what I shared with them.
Oh and hear from some of the women featured in the book too as they join me live on the line. I’m excited to show you the slides and photos, share the stories and lessons and give you that 2019 career boost which might make you put your foot down at work, the very next day. It depends if you feel your driving your career bus forward or not how relevant it will be to you…
Presenting – is it something you dread or want to be better at?
Thursday 1st November 2018. In London. Invest in a day with me and let me show you HOW…
If you want to learn how to be and why it’s so important to be a more natural, confident and compelling presenter at work, I’m hosting a One-Day Presentation Masterclass on 1st November in the City of London and the registration desk is now OPEN.
We have about 15 seats remaining and you’ll be in great company with other career women who want to be better at presenting information at work (OR who want to actually do it at all as they currently avoid it completely).
It’s one of the fastest paths to attracting more opportunities at work – sharing your knowledge, expertise and experience in a more public way but without being a stumbling, blushing wreck. I used to be just that. Not anymore. I’ve learned a thing of two about how to present information and stay present, focussed, open and yet still ‘nail’ the message I want to get across.
Let me show you how to do this too. To be more engaging, comfortable and clear and – crucially – be more yourself as you present information at work, conferences, in meetings, on panels, town halls etc.
Here’s what Ali said who joined us in May 2016 when I last hosted the event:
“EXCELLENT. One day with a detailed focus worked very well, Kay. And although we had the detailed focus on Presentations, it enabled you to pull in many of Kay’s other theories around self-confidence and influencing and presence. I thought it was one of the best Events that Kay has run.”
Gratitude: 2 Small Words Change Everything
The lessons are everywhere. Just notice.
It’s such a small thing to say ‘thank you’ and these two small words cost you absolutely nothing and yet make a huge difference to if and how people remember you – and respond to you. Thanking people is often the difference that makes the difference as to whether people do what you want, get back to you, take on your opinion and it certainly affects the actual way they do what you ask them to.
To be noticed and remembered for the right reasons, we need to make people feel appreciated. An easy, effective and natural way to make people feel you appreciate them is simply to look for more ways to say ‘Thank You’ to them and to say it more. It’s so simple and it works in so many ways.
Once we start to look for how and where we can be more grateful, more appreciative of what people do and are doing, not just for us but around us, you’ll discover loads more opportunities to say ‘thank you’.
‘Thank you for your help’
‘Thank you for letting me know’
‘Thank you for thinking of me’
‘Thanks in advance for doing that by Friday…’
Telling people you know they’ll do something and thanking them before they’ve done it, that’s where commitment and consistency, those powerful influencers, live.
‘Thank you’ also helps even if you don’t like what you’re being told. Try saying “ah, thanks for letting me know” or “hmm, thanks for telling me that, now what about etc.” If you say ‘thank you’ first, it means that the first thing you say isn’t negative and crucially, it buys you some precious time to decide what you do want to say.
Defined in the dictionary as ‘a polite expression used when acknowledging a gift, service or compliment or when accepting or refusing an offer’, saying ‘thank you’ for something you don’t want or don’t want to do is a really key piece in learning how to say ‘no’ without upsetting people. “Thank you for the opportunity and…”
There’s a great knock-on effect from saying ‘Thank You’ more of course. It makes you feel better too. It’s that whole ‘attitude of gratitude’ and it truly works. Simple.
So many people mutter to themselves ‘Well, they’re just doing their job’ ie why should I say ‘thank you?’ or tell me ‘I was so pleased with how they did that’ and yet when I ask the person ‘did you tell them you’re pleased?’ they invariably say the person was either doing what they were supposed to or they just assumed the person knew they were pleased. Uh oh.
A client told me recently that, as a service provider, when a customer phones her and says ‘thank you’ after she’s sorted things out for them, they immediately get better service from her next time they need her help.
As she then said ‘everyone likes to be appreciated, we’ve all got a lot going on’ and as William Arthur Ward, the famous American poet said ‘Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.’
There you go, simple and easy. Thank you %$firstname$% and I have a TON of Thank You notes to write after all the support, input, guidance and inspiration I’ve received recently!
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H is for Helena, Financial Services Laywer, London.
I learned why you MUST bring yourself to your work
“I love the fact Kay’s focus is on communication in a number of forms; not just the spoken, but the impression one gives as a whole. What Kay shared with her strategies and stories gave me loads more confidence to put my point across in meetings, say ‘Yes’ before I was ready, understand my worth and I’ve even given 3 well-received client presentations (something I really used to struggle with or avoid completely).
The fact that Kay encourages women to be women and not to deny our “sparkly” side is also a major bonus – I learned why you MUST bring yourself to your work and how to stand strong in who and how you are. Recently I had the best appraisal I could have hoped for.
Too many mentors and coaches events take on the ‘grey corporate image’ but it’s so refreshing learning about personal power, career strategy and sparkle from Kay is a unique and winning formula for your career.”
H is for Healthy, Headway, High-Flyer
For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day AND, see below for your Power List.
The Art Of Gathering
As an Event host and something of a social butterfly at times, I love creating a space for people to feel nurtured, comfortable and inspired.
My book launch, 3-day Live Events, Client Retreats, One-Day Events are all thought and planned through the lens of ‘how can everyone feel at their best’?
When Snowy & I host gatherings in our home, we’re always thinking about the atmosphere, the mix of guests, the fun surprises or conversations to introduce and then – of course – we let go and let happen.
This book is a must-read if you want to get better or more confident at hosting Events, whatever they are, which make people feel great and open to your message – whatever that may be!
Savvy Style & Sparkle Soundbite
Save tons of space in your wardrobe!
Since being on a bit of a mission after reading the book ‘The Life Changing Magic of Tidying’ by Marie Kondo, one of the things I did was to upgrade our hangers. Instead of the mishmash of plastic hangers which came from the shops, combined with big, hefty wooden hangers, I’ve saved space and made my wardrobe look so smart.
Buying felt hangers in a smart purple colour, the space they save is astounding. The added bonus is everything looks so much tidier at the same time. Snowy’s been converted as has my niece Grace – we’re all smiling at the space, the colour and the uniformity of new felt hangers. I found mine on eBay.
Anything which helps you keep things tidy and makes it easier for you to find what you want in an instant things is always worth a closer look.
No mishmash of hangers in my closet, thank you!
Known as the Smart Career Moves Mentor for Ambitious Corporate Career Women, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.
Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.
Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.
Comfortable on her feet, Kay regularly hosts Live Events (for 5 years, her annual 3-Day Live Event – Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE – has shown corporate career women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards, all without selling their souls).
Kay is author of the two International Number 1 Best-Sellers, “The A to Z of Being Understood” and the recently launched “It’s Always Your Move” – you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com
Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.
Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.