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Positive Linking eZine: September 11, 2015
Volume 117 | 11 September 2015
Hello there %$firstname$%,
I’ve had a couple of ‘Back to the Future’ moments recently and they took me by surprise both times. Firstly Snowy and I were at his company barbecue last weekend and I was chatting for the first time (I thought) to his Compliance Offer Iain, I was startled to hear it wasn’t the first time in fact. Iain had been part of a group of us when we were at school (30+years before) and was in fact a very good friend of one of my first ‘loves’. Our hair and dress sense has changed a bit since those days!
Oh my goodness – it was so funny to revisit these times with Iain and I did have the good grace to blush. We had no idea until our love of loud rock music came into the conversation and discussed I’m learning to play the drums. It was in that moment that the planets of then and now collided. He played in a band and my then-boyfriend and I used to go along to their gigs.
Then, another back to the future experience this week too. I met up with a friend Nick who started on the same day as I did at the insurance broker where I worked for 20+ years. He’s still there 30+ years on and told me the secret of his longevity in the market and success in his career. “Embracing the challenges of change Kay”.
I love that phrase %$firstname$% – you can either resist the flow of change when it’s happening or, go with it and make your own opportunities. As Byron Katie, one of my spiritual heroes says, “When you argue with reality you lose but only 100% of the time.” So, how do you do embracing the challenges of change? Let me share more with you on my thinking about that in the Top Takeaway below.
Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work.
Warmly to you %$firstname$%,
Let’s connect even more
PS – Oscar Wilde Said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
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3-Day LIVE Event 2016
Shall I keep you posted?
If you know you need to step up and accelerate your success at work AND allow yourself to be seen, valued and heard – do be there in 2016. Here’s the date and it will be in London again.
Oh and below, here’s a quick video showing a little of what happened in March and what you’ve got in store in 2016. Take a few moments to see what comes up for ambitious women like you and what happens when you put yourself into an intentional space like this.
Releasing an Audio Book – it’s About Time!
After years of being asked “When are you going to turn your book into an audio book Kay?” I now have!
The interesting thing about making the decision to do this Kay is that when enough people tell you the same thing, pay attention. They’re on to something and see something for you which often you’ve not seen, yet.
You’ll be able to access all the information, from A to Z, in your car, on the running machine and – if you’re like me – when you’re walking the dog! The audios are now in production with music being added, coughs and trip ups being removed (and the odd swear word) and touches of musical fairy dust too – I’m excited to share it with you when it’s ready.
As soon as it’s available I’ll make sure you have early access to the downloadable audio book, with a special Introductory Offer. And 3, 2, 1 ‘Action’.
Be Heard NOW – Action Session with me
Here’s a limited opportunity for you to really step up at work for the final part of 2015. Let’s take a look together at what’s challenging you, holding you back or stopping you from securing the role, the salary, the opportunity you know you deserve.
On a one-off focussed call together let’s consider what your key challenges, issues and ambitions are for being recognised and rewarded at work. I promise you you’ll come off the call with ideas and strategies to step up and own the value of what you do at work AND ways to be rewarded for it.
I rarely have the capacity to offer these kind of calls. I do just at the moment – for 5 women who know it’s time.
It’s one of my go-to books. Each year I read ‘Who Moved My Cheese’ by Ken Blanchard which reminds me how to recognise change and expect it. Not to sit like a rabbit in the headlights and hold my head saying things aren’t fair.
Well, one of the only things you can rely on is that everything is shifting and changing all the time.
Relationships, market conditions, policies, who’s who, technology and why are we surprised?
When you consider what was important to you when you were 5, 15, 25, 35, 45 and so on – you can tell that for the most part, the key drivers for you have changed.
At 5 you probably wanted to have the newest popular toy, at 15 a boyfriend or girlfriend and good grades, at 25 more money to buy your own place, 35 a child or a partner (or a new partner) and so on. Your landscape changed, your desires changed or, as it says in the book, your cheese naturally moved.
When you take a look then at your workplace or industry these days, where companies have to be nimble and respond to market conditions to be able to stay in business, why would it be any different? One of the things I’ve learned is that there is no ‘job for life’ anymore and on some levels that’s a good thing. Companies can’t offer the certainty of it and nor can we, or should we, rely on it. That, in itself, gives us walk-ability. The essence being keeping your eyes and ears open to what’s going on as well as your mind open to how it works for you. Not if, but how? If you don’t believe you want to make it work then that’s where your opportunities to move your cheese lie. They lie with you.
As it says in the book “Every company wants to survive in the future but also stay competitive. While in the past we may have wanted loyal employees, today we need flexible people who are not possessive about ‘the way we do things around here’”.
Here’s a simple set of incisive questions I ask myself and my clients when we see change (another) on the horizon:
Where are the opportunities in here for you?
What will you have to let go of to embrace the opportunities?
What will be the threats?
What’s the worst that can happen and how will you handle it?
What would you tell me to do if we swapped places?
We all know intuitively it’s an inside job. Change. It’s an inside job. How you approach it, what you make it mean, how you talk about it, how you embrace it and how you allow it to stretch you so you grow with the flow of it.
When you come up against yourself resisting the flow of change either inside of you or external to you, remind yourself of how much change you’ve encountered, handled and benefitted from. Then remind yourself to choose how to approach it. Choose to approach change. Always. All ways.
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Kay shows experienced – and often frustrated – business women (and very smart men) how to be heard and understood by accessorising their day-to-day interactions with subtle, influential phrases and words to make people sit up, listen and take action. Kay’s book, The A to Z of Being Understood is an international #1 Bestseller: http://amzn.to/kTJYdX and helps professionals make their voices heard and their conversations really count.”
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Speaking All Over the World
October is also going to be very ‘logistical’ %$firstname$% as I’m booked to speak at 3 different global organisations to show women how and why to speak up and be more assertive and influential at work.
Speaking at one organisations’ Auditorium in London, my talk is going to be beamed around the world to the 170 countries within their network. It’s a great way for the organisation to build connection within their global network and we will be taking questions live from the Livestream audience.
To find out how I can contribute to your organisation with an interactive talk filled with tips, tools, mindset pieces and sparkly, savvy things to say for women to grow in confidence so they step up and are more naturally valued and rewarded at work, do drop my Assistant, Caroline Humphries, a note. We can take a look at if or how it’s a fit for us both from there.
‘Perfectly Imperfect’ Moments
Always one to try things and test things, I’ve been recording simple, quick messages or – as I call them – “Perfectly Imperfect Moments of Inspiration” for you. I’ve been told so many times “You should be recording videos” and I’ve now got to grips with the gizmos I need to be able to comfortably seize these moments!
Kay White works with experienced business women from all around the world (and some very smart men) and shows them – with a combination of language and strategic moves – how to own, position and speak of their value so their income, opportunities and confidence naturally increases. Kay combines private one-on-one, VIP mentoring with group mentoring, speaking and hosts her annual 3-day Live Event ’Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE”. She also hosts her weekly podcast radio show downloadable from her site or on iTunes.
Using insights from her own +20 year corporate career, Kay shows her clients how to plan out their next moves in their business or career. She also shows women how ‘accessorise’ and enhance their day-to-day interactions along the way making them more comfortable, compelling and engaging. They boost their income, prospects and attract more lucrative opportunities as a result as Kay shows her clients how to add true, personal sparkle. Both to themselves and to what they say.
Working with Kay, her clients discover how to be confident, assertive, attract and keep attention and then ask for and get what they want. It’s a learnable skill to ask for what you want, to persuade, influence and get other people engaged and into action – both in writing and face-to-face. Kay’s developed step-by-step systems for her clients to learn, follow and use the steps every day and everywhere.
Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert, Kay is the Author of the international #1 bestseller ‘The A to Z of Being Understood’ and Founder of Way Forward Solutions Ltd, a multiple 6-figure private company. Kay annually hosts a 3-day Live Event in London for professional women: Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE. With her straightforward and easy manner, Kay regularly features in magazines and publications. She’s a featured expert in GLAMOUR Magazine in “The Nice Girl’s Guide to Playing Hardball” and a regular guest blogger for We Are The City, a hub network and content site for professional women.
During her 20-year corporate career, Kay worked in the City of London and in Paris to Director level as part of a successful, mainly male, fast-paced team of global insurance brokers. Negotiating multi-million pound, industrial property insurance contracts around the world, she learned (often by her own mistakes along the way) how to – and crucially how not to – get heard, valued and noticed, for the right reasons. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.
Kay and her husband live close to London with their 3 rescue sighthounds. A lot of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.