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Positive Linking eZine: September 2, 2016
Volume 138 | 2 September 2016
Hello there %$firstname$%,
So, it’s been, in my opinion, a fantastic Summer. On some level it still is! Even though there’s that sense of ‘back to school’ and the final Year End push on the horizon, there’s also still this sense of ease and easiness.
Snowy and I were chatting about how easy it is to bang on about how ‘things aren’t what they used to be’ and ‘Summers used to be hotter’ etc etc – and plenty of people enjoy wasting their precious life energy complaining like this but not us. It’s felt a long, spacious, warm and full Summer with lots of fun times, a few wobbly times and yet a really great sense of Summertime colour – not Summertime blues!
It’s also been a time of reconnection. A family party which we hadn’t been to for ages, taking a girlfriend to have her colours refreshed (here we are in the pink!), a neighbourhood ho-down with our small group of neighbours sitting down to share a barbecue in the middle of the road! A number of friends getting in touch after I wrote an article about friends losing touch and sometimes that was a good thing…. I’m very open to how we reconnect when we meet up and it’s all good. That’s truly how I feel. After the whole “OMG” time of having labrynthitis and the scariness of it all, one of my phrases these days %$firstname$% is “It’s all good”. Not in a Pollyanna kind of way where nothing phases me. No. But more in a “Hey, on a scale of 1 to being on a trolley in A&E – it’s all good”. I hosted a call in August about this very thing. Making Lemons from Lemonade. You can still receive the recording (see below).
Saying “Yes” before you’re ready is one of the many things I advocate to getting you ahead at work. Women tend to wait and prepare and over prepare. BUT, if you know enough to say “Yes” and then give yourself the gift of working it out as you go, life opens up in so many ways. I’m hosting the 2.0 Version of my Live Event next month based on this sense of being open to it all. I’ve also said “OK then” to playing the drums at a gig in London in February as a guest appearance on just one track. It’s still way before WAY I’m ready though %$firstname$%. By February, I will be and, you know what, just like I realise our hounds do. I’ll be in the moment then, as I am now. Not fretting like I used to about what everyone thinks. Caring more about what I think and I think it will be “all good”. Jeffrey, our newest hound, is a true testament to living in the moment. Here he is with his 4th collar (having chewed the other 3). Hmmm.
Where might you say “Yes” to something, long before you’re ready? Go on. I dare you. It makes you ready. That’s the irony.
Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work.
Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,
Let’s connect even more
PS – Oscar Wilde Said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
Would you like the Recording %$firstname$%?
Wiser (and Smarter) After The Event
5 Key Life Lessons to Turn Your Life’s Lemons – into Lemonade
Ealier this month I hosted a brand new, complimentary Teleclass.
Wiser after the Event is about allowing yourself to find the lessons in what happens to you and where to look for them.
How to make the tough stuff into part of your story and free yourself
How to elevate yourself and be really present to what’s happening so you can help others too
How you can help others too as you call them to help you
What to say to yourself, over and over, to give you the strength and presence of mind to keep going
How to maximise the opportunities which present themselves when the ‘stuff’ hits the fan
Barbara de Angelis says “Difficult times always create opportunities for you to experience more love in your life”. I’ve found it truly has been and still is.
Listen as I share these lessons with you AND Opened The Lines to hear from 5 smart, generous and wise women who were there – they taught us so much about taking the lessons from the OMG moments in your life…
>>>>We’re 60% full already. Are you meant to be with us?
This is a unique opportunity for corporate women, just like you, to work out how to attract more income AND opportunities to lead with your value – without having to sell your soul.
Women from industries such as Banking, Insurance, IT, Asset Management, Hospitality, Accountancy, Law, Compliance are already joining us and – so can you!
There’s never been a better time to be a woman in business stepping up and going for what you want. To attract and leverage opportunities for promotion, recognition, rewards you need to take a stand for yourself and assert yourself – and you must do it in a way, which is true to yourself.
Take some time for yourself and press ‘Pause’ on your day-to-day ‘To Do’ list by joining us, live and in London, to consider, plan and position yourself for more purposeful – and accelerated – career success at work. On your terms.
If you want to:
earn more money AND own your own earning power
be offered more interesting and challenging opportunities in your organisation or industry
AND negotiate for yourself from a position of certainty, join me and let me show you where your own version of ‘sparkle’ can be found, then join me and all the experienced and insightful women you’ll meet at the Event.
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I only wish I could have gone to an Event like this when I was navigating the choppy waters of my own 20+ year corporate career.
Or, in other words – Show Up; Sparkle and Be Heard LIVE.
Here’s a Snapshot of all that’s on offer for you!
Whose Race Are You Really Running %$firstname$%?
8 success strategies from Rio 2016
Watching the Olympics this Summer has been such an emotional experience and taught me so much. Truly. Every race, every event and all the interviews before and after prove, without a doubt, the traits all the participants share. The physical fitness, age and cultural backgrounds all come in to play but I’ve noticed, time and again, 8 clear success strategies. Ones that come in to play for us every single day in business as in our lives.
You know how I listen to the words not being said as much as I listen for the words which are said? Well, here’s what I really heard as Rio 2016’s Olympics top takeaways.
Commit – make a decision to do something, to be someone, to have something and commit to it. No doubt, no waivering, no ‘faffing’. The stories of athletes moving countries away from their families to get the best training or support. Making that level of commitment separates you from people who ‘would like to’ rather commit to. Despite the injuries, the set backs, the personal traumas, they commit and stick to it. What are you 100% committed to and how does it separate you from the ‘well, I’d quite like to’ players?
Prepare – the training, the lifestyle, the self-care, the mental game. I heard someone say they had run the race in their head so many times so when it came to it and came to winning he felt he already had. He just had to go out there and show us how he’d done it. In business, to prepare, think through the angles, know your stuff, well it makes you able to be ‘loose’. You’re more flexible when it’s real because you’ve been through it so many times before it was. What are you preparing for and how are you running through it in advance, again and again so you can be ‘loose’ too?
Respect – your competition and get to know them. Keeping an eye and an ear on what other people are doing and respecting them for it. There always seemed to be a healthy regard and respect for the competing athletes. In business, the same attitude helps. In reality no one has the same skills, the same experience, the same story as you. Rather than try to be a clone of someone else, being you and bringing your own personality and pizzazz to everything you do will always make you special. No one else can do it like you. What do you know makes you special and different and how could you allow yourself to stand out more for it?
Support – take the advice and know-how of people who can see your game as you’re playing it. Their experience and knowledge then becomes inextricably mixed with your own. Every athlete always cited their coach and mentor in their thanks because they see things you simply couldn’t. I know this to my toes in my business and bring this to my clients in theirs. Who supports you and gives you guidance and input whilst flying your flag with you?
Believe – or go home! I heard that a few times. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? Standing sure and firm in your belief in yourself isn’t about showing off and being like a peacock, it’s about self-certainty. You know you can’t control what anyone else does, says or how they play the game. You control how you behave and how you believe and keep believing. The phrase ‘I never, never, never gave up believing’ was a quotable. What about you – what are you standing sure and firm in yourself about?
Extra – that extra 10% you don’t think you have. When you need it, you do have it. The stories of that extra push, that final “I just went for it” energy that somehow we have when we call it up. So many medalists said “suddenly, I just found more in the tank”. When you think of something you achieved because you found that extra 10% from somewhere, what difference did it make for you?
Celebrate – you could virtually see a switch flick. The concentration, the mental strength, the focus. Then, the delivery. Then came the celebrations, the relief and the release. It’s a true part of the process in whatever you’re setting out to achieve to allow yourself – and anyone else involved – time to celebrate and acknowledge what’s been achieved. Too often it’s straight on to the next challenge, well have a quick look Usain Bolt’s ‘happy dance’ after winning the 100M Gold and have a smile at his moment. What’s something coming up for you which you’ll prepare to do your ‘happy dance’ about?
Run – your own race. I heard this phrase so often. Rather than be pushed or mind-gamed by other athletes, the press, the crowd, you stick to your plan because it is your own race. No one else has the same cards to play with as you and no one else wants the same things as you, they’re not you. It’s obvious and it’s easy to forget. Whose race are you running and what’s it really about for you?
With all the highs and lows, the twists and turns of our own day-to-day work, rest and play time, I believe Baz Luhrmann, the film director hits it squarely on the nose.
It’s as true for you in business, in your career, in your day-to-day life as it is for an Olympian athlete.
“Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long, but in the end it’s only with yourself.”
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“Be open – what have you got to lose?”
S.P. was a Director in a major global bank who’d got stuck, frustrated and felt very undervalued at work having missed out on a pay raise and a bonus. Well, not anymore! She attended Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE and…fairly soon after, attracted a new role and was so thrilled.
“I was intrigued by the title of the event! The idea of having access to all the like-minded professional women Kay attracts really motivated me to come. I didn’t want it to end!
I’ve learned so much about myself both from Kay and what she shares and from the generous sharing of other women in the audience. I would never have got access to the sorts of things I’ve learned if I hadn’t had the sense to come here.
I know I’m richer as a result of being here. I’ve opened up to how I can do things differently to realise my potential, be a better person, earn more money and really be much happier in myself.
Kay’s so thoughtful and has a way of understanding what you need before you do and she’s very warm, real and really, really great fun! Be open – what have you got to lose? For a small investment you can get huge access to ways to be truly extraordinary – learn from Kay.”
S is also for Samar AND Sparkly, Special and Savvy!
For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day AND, see below for your Power List.
Learning from a Success Story for Your Own Success
Find Your Extraordinary
I’ve been romping through this book over the last week or so.
Stella & Dot – the story. I love jewellery. No surprise. I’m fascinated by success and successful women. I’m so impressed by Jessica Herrin and her story, her lessons, her advice and her results.
As she wisely says “You should not pursue having it all, you should pursue what matters most. Being able to know what matters to you and then chasing that is what lets you live with authenticity and intention in your life.“
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Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.
Hosting an annual 3-day Live Event for corporate career women “Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE” Kay encourages and shows women how to be the best, most valuable version of themselves so they’re ready to be paid what their worth and go for what they want with certainty. Crucially too, how to have more ease and more fun as you plan your way forward.
Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com
Living close to London with sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, lots of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside. Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he’s part of the pack.