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Positive Linking eZine: September 21, 2018
Volume 181 | 21 September 2018
Hello there %$firstname$%,
Sometimes you get much more than you bargain for! This past couple of weeks has been a little dramatic in that our smallest (and naughtiest) hound, Jeffrey, had to have 4 stitches around his eye and wear ‘the cone of shame’ for 10 days. He caught, as sighthounds do, a squirrel in the woods where we walk and – quite understandably – the squirrel fought back.
All this before 7am and when I returned from the park – normally my relaxing, reflective time – I felt I needed to go back to bed myself. Instead, off Jeffery and I went to the vet. What’s so interesting about this somewhat shocking incident %$firstname$% is this.
Jeffrey had no sense of being under-the-weather or in any way needing to be careful with himself. He just wanted to get back out there and keep running. We tend to be very tentative, concerned about ourselves and afraid to ‘do too much’ if we’ve taken a knock. Of course I don’t mean to ignore the need to heal but what I did learn is how easy it is to wrap yourself in cotton wool instead of dust yourself off and get back in the game. Jeffrey is off the lead for the first time in 10 days this week – good luck everyone! I’ve learned so much from being a dog-owner since 2002 or, as I truly believe it is, being owned by a dog. See the Top Takeaway below for lessons learned from our first ever hound, Bolly. He would have given Jeffrey a run for his money too.
Behind the scenes I’m getting all things ready for my book launch which is now fully Sold-Out with a waiting list. I’m so honoured and excited to bring the book to life and have had an interesting idea which will make the book come to life for you, even if you can’t be at the launch %$firstname$%. Stay tuned… And, to decompress from all this activity, I’ve been practicing my drums ahead of doing an exam next year. Practicing what I preach… saying ‘Yes’ to this before I’m ready.
Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work. There’s no time to do this like the present which is, after all, all we have guaranteed…
Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,
Let’s connect even more
PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
It’s Always Your Move by Kay White
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Discovering what goes on inside my own process having worked with thousands of career women showing them how to get promoted, valued and rewarded at work is what my book is all about. There are 8 Principles which make up Your Career Success Cycle and involve clear strategies from me and words and phrases to use straight away to propel you forward with more confidence. Would you like a Principle to use right now?
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One of the myriad of things I’ve learned from this book is how to take control of my future in a way that reflects and is true to me, as Kay says ‘without losing yourself’.”
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Sidebar: Whilst the book launch on 4th October is now fully Sold-Out with a waiting list, I’ll share some of the behind-the-scenes with you in the next eZine. It’s close now and thank you for being on this rollercoaster ride with me! You’ll soon be able to have your own copy of the book too, it’s packed with career success tips, ideas, stories and dares for you %$firstname$%.
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Thursday 1st November 2018. In London.
If you want to learn how to be and why it’s so important to be a more natural, confident and compelling presenter at work, I’m hosting a One-Day Presentation Masterclass on 1st November in the City of London and the registration desk will open very soon.
Let me show you how to be more engaging, comfortable and clear and – crucially – be more yourself as you present information at work, conferences, in meetings, on panels, town halls etc. Save the date for now.
7 Career Success Traits Learned from Bollydog
The lessons are everywhere. Just notice.
Dear Bolly may have passed on 3 years ago this month and it may sound whimsical or indulgent to share with you career success traits which I’ve learned from our hound but, I am. On a number of levels, I realise how many lessons we’ve learned having been owned by a dog for over 16 years and also realise what novices we were when we first rescued Bolly (or did he rescue us?) in 2002.
You can see on the day we took him into our home how we all had fewer grey hairs and laughter lines but what a lot of life we would live together.
Lurchers are intensively fit and eager creatures. They’re fast and yet they love nothing more than lazing about after a long walk. What came to me is how they operate on so many levels which have similarity in being successful in your career. At the same time, these traits map into our personal lives too. Success in one without success in the other is a life half lived, in my view.
Let me show you the 7 success traits I learned from Bolly – and all the other hounds following in his paws – and how they map across into your career:
1. It’s a marathon not a sprint. After intense periods of exercise and activity, take time to rest. Give yourself a break. Don’t just bounce on to the next task or list. Enjoy the satisfaction and reflection of what you’ve achieved or done and drop a gear for a while. Find a sofa.
2. Notice what you notice. Even though we go to the same park most days, as a hound there’s a curiosity and delight in being there each day. Never oh ‘here we go again’ which we can consider being ‘another day at the office’. A hound is always ‘Yay, we’re here. What’s going on I can explore?’ It’s easy to become cynical with a sense of having seen it all before. You haven’t. The landscape’s always changing. Are you noticing what’s going on and moving with the times?
3. Have half and ear and eye open. Always. It’s easy to assume everything’s as it seems. A hound has always got half an ear cocked. We can become complacent and assume all’s well and as it should be. In your career you need to keep an eye on the competition, your colleagues, the market and be part of the conversation rather than closed off. It’s where opportunity and career agility is to be found.
4. Live in the moment more. Seeing the joy from a hound when we come back into a room having only been out for a moment, when the lead comes out or we arrive at a new place is a great reminder of how easy it is for us to be focussing elsewhere and miss the moments happening right now. Being more present at work and at home as your colleagues and family share things with you is so key to connecting. Giving someone the gift of your presence is often hard with so many gizmos available to distract us. We tend to live in the tomorrow rather than the now and we miss so much as a result.
5. Have adventures but know your way home. Going off and chasing a squirrel isn’t necessarily what I mean but as a hound, that’s often what they do. In our careers, playing by the rules, always walking the path and saying the ‘right’ things isn’t where adventure and entrepreneurship is found. I’ve learned by pushing boundaries – your own and other people’s – you grow and expand and find more opportunity. Always, however, know where home is. Where your bread’s buttered. Where you’re loved.
6. Read energy, not only the words. As a hound, you don’t really understand words, they’re sounds which is why you can read your shopping list to a hound in a loving, fun voice and they get all excited. At work – and at home – it’s easy to miss what’s going on because you don’t pay attention to the energy people have as they speak. We’re often caught up in words and miss the message of a person’s energy, their body language, their handshake, eye contact. Hounds don’t. They watch you like a hawk and read your energy like a book. At work you can ask yourself “what’s this person’s energy telling me which they’re not saying?” and clues will be there for you to notice.
7. Remain curious and playful. Being up for things, being curious and sometimes silly is both infectious and good for the soul. Yours and the souls of those around you. Asking about people, what’s going on with them, how something’s working, what you can do to help – curiosity is a natural state of learning and so is having fun. Bolly was still playing with his trusty old Meerkat toys and chasing a stick right up to the end of his life. We often forget to be playful and take ourselves far too seriously. You know I don’t mean to be the court jester at work but to loosen up, laugh at yourself, play – and not just to win, just to play.
So, what I realise as I finish writing this is how useful lessons and analogies are everywhere for us to notice. In this case, using the words of a well-known UK advert “Be More Dog” is my message, both to myself and to you.
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Spice Up Your Language
As a quick tip to broaden your language and add some spice and variety to it, one of the most powerful – and simple – things is to use more of is your Thesaurus! I use mine all the time. Really – all the time.
It sounds so obvious and in some ways antiquated but if you right-click on your mouse on any computer, it will bring up either the Dictionary or the Thesaurus. Just by using this more you’ll get the meaning behind the words you use and may over-use, find others and juice up your language. It’s a big piece of being noticed and of being more engaging to others.
I’m sure you, like me, already do this but just in case…. I take snapshots on my telephone of adverts, screenshots, words, a greetings card – virtually anything which catches my eye which I know I want to refer to or find out more about.
Of course I still make little notes for myself but I use screenshots on my phone to capture the essence of what I want to remember or refer to – a product, a sign (I took one of our local carpark charges which are super-complicated and designed to catch you out!). Just like this one here captured of a hotel I’d love to stay at, it’s those moments of inspiration which can give you a big boost later on and – after all – a picture paints a thousand words….
Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert for Ambitious Women in Business, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.
Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.
Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.
Comfortable on her feet, Kay regularly hosts Live Events (for 5 years, her annual 3-Day Live Event – Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE – has shown corporate career women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards, all without selling their souls). Stay tuned for news about a suite of Day of Magic Experience Events for 2018.
Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and soon to be launched “It’s Always Your Move” you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com
Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.
Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.