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Positive Linking eZine: September 26, 2014
Volume 96 |26 September 2014
Hello there %$firstname$%,
Well, how does lying on the sofa for a whole week sound to you? Most likely you’ll think “Oh, yes please” but, interestingly, having had enforced rest this past week, it’s less appealing than you’d think. My foot has been playing up from an old aerobics injury to my toe (yes, used to love the high impact, high energy aerobics classes) and I’ve been channeling the Mrs Doubtfire look with elastic sock and sensible shoes. Not normally my go-to style but, as you know %$firstname$%, sometimes you have to just let go, take a breath and take really good care of yourself. Hounds went into kennels so I didn’t have to walk everyday (which I missed like crazy) and friends rallied round to pick things up and run errands. Again, letting go isn’t always easy, is it %$firstname$%?
What’s interesting is how much I was able to do which I wouldn’t have done had I been mobile. With my foot elevated, the swelling has subsided and, in the meantime I’ve prepared talks I’m giving, planned out a half-day event next month, had private and group client calls and taken time to chat with people and consider new opportunities and directions. All from the sofa and all because of my enforced pause. (See below for more about the power of pausing.)
Slowly back in the game again this week but taking care. One painful toe can stop you in your tracks!
Warmly to you %$firstname$%,
PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.
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On My Feet, Speaking – A Lot!
As well as 3 large global insurance organisations, I’m also speaking at a Risk Management organisation too, all in the next month. One of the many things I’ve learned about speaking is planning, preparing and, the power of pausing.
One of the talks I’m giving from the London office of a company involves connecting with the offices in California, New York, Philadelphia and there’s what we plan – and there’s what actually happens. Technology makes it possible and throws up many challenges. Being able to pace myself and to pause, to check in with the audience and the organisers is strategically part of my talk. See below about the power of making pausing part of your conversations.
A Well-Planned Pause, Intentional Pause
Make pausing part of your conversations
I don’t know about you but it’s easy to find yourself on a ‘gabbling to no-where.’. That’s a phrase a client used and it’s spot on for what can happen when you don’t give yourself time to breathe and, most importantly and often forgotten, it gives the other person time to process and really hear what you’re saying.
Pausing is a great way for you to calm yourself down, to consider what you’re actually saying and to really land your message. The pause is key so, instead of it being something you suddenly remember to do or run out of breath/time/ideas and so have to pause – make a powerful, purposeful pause part of your conversations.
There are so many benefits to slowing down. We can find outselves thinking as we speak when we’re not prepared or when we’re nervous. The power of planned pause is multifunctional. For example:
It makes you regulate your breathing, you stop – take a breath, look around – if you have to, count to say 3 and then keep going
It helps others keep up and often keep awake (it’s very easy to tune you out when everything merges together) giving your speech pauses and then, interspersing them with checking in phrases like “any questions so far?” or “what thoughts do you have so far?” which also help calm you and show you that you actually care about the other person/s experience. Oh, and just in case you didn’t think I really mean it, it buys you time. Time to consider the route the conversation is going, time to gather your thoughts and take on feedback. It also gives you time to slow your pace of speech down if you know you speak, as so may women do, too quickly.
Taking a deep breath or just a breath itself gives you so many benefits – more oxygenhelps your brain be more nimble – it helps you regulate your tone, it will help you call to mind some of the things you’ve planned to say (of course, you did plan a bit, didn’t you?) and shine.
Trust me when I say I myself often take a sip of water, for example, not because I’m thirsty but because it’s a pause, it slows me down, it allows me, and it will allow you, those all important few seconds to consider what comes next.
“The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.” Mark Twain
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Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert, Kay is the Author of the international #1 bestseller ‘The A to Z of Being Understood’. She’s also a contributing Author in 4 other #1 best-selling books and annually hosts a 3-day Live Event in London for professional women: Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE. With her straightforward and easy manner, Kay regularly features in magazines and publications. She’s a featured expert in GLAMOUR Magazine in “The Nice Girl’s Guide to Playing Hardball” and a regular guest blogger for We Are The City, a hub network and content site for professional women.
During her 20-year corporate career, Kay worked in the City of London and in Paris to Director level as part of a successful, mainly male, fast-paced team of global insurance brokers. Negotiating multi-million pound, industrial property insurance contracts around the world, she learned (often by her own mistakes along the way) how to – and crucially how not to – get heard, valued and noticed, for the right reasons. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently!
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