Positive Linking eZine: August 23, 2018

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Volume 179 |  23 August 2018

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Hello there %$firstname$%,

Well, it’s been sent to be printed! Finally, my 2nd book ‘It’s Always Your Move’ is with the printers via my publisher and crikey, what a ride it’s been.

I have had moments of real frustration, doubt and exhaustion mixed in with a healthy splash of joy, excitement and relief! Quite the cocktail. The biggest stretch has been letting go of perfection – every time I looked at the manuscript I could see another ‘tweak’ or a question would pop into my mind and there comes a point where you just have to say “Enough”. Otherwise it’s never ever going to be ready. Knowing this to be a stumbling block for so many of my clients, how could I possibly let it be mine? It isn’t. It’s gone and it is going to be perfectly imperfect and great. Trusting yourself is one of our biggest life lessons!

Snowy and I celebrated by taking off for a cheeky weekend to The Lake District in the North of England where it’s so raw, open and cold. It was fabulous to have such a change of scenery and no computer screen anywhere in sight.

We had set an intention to visit The Lakes this year %$firstname$%. It’s special to us for many reasons and if you don’t pick a date and plan then it just doesn’t happen. Jeffrey, our smallest hound, came too and there were about 15 other dogs staying in our hotel too. Even more fun with furry friends.

Thank you for taking the time to read this eZine as I’m sure you have so much vying for your attention. I hope the ideas and suggestions help you reflect and to show up, sparkle and be heard even more at work. There’s no time to do this like the present which is, after all, all we have guaranteed…

Warm and ever-sparkly wishes %$firstname$%,


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PS – Oscar Wilde said it best, %$firstname$% when he said “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Enough said.

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It’s Always Your Move by Kay White

Would you like to help yourself to a complimentary chapter from my new book?

It’s Always Your Move – Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women.

Discovering what goes on inside my own process having worked with thousands of career women showing them how to get promoted, valued and rewarded at work is what my book is all about. There are 8 Principles which make up Your Career Success Cycle and involve clear strategies from me and words and phrases to use straight away to propel you forward with more confidence. Would you like a Principle to use right now?

Here’s the Link to Download Principle 5 – Shine In Interviews & Appraisals

You can take Principle 5 right now. Designed to help you feel more comfortable, confident and clear when you go for interviews for new roles (internally and externally) AND gives you guidance to maximise your upcoming Mid-Year Appraisals and Reviews. You do prepare for those don’t you %$firstname$%? This will guide you and give you more ideas and incentive!

The official Book Launch is on 4th October in London.

Tickets can be reserved on Wednesday 29th and the £25 Registration will include 2 signed copies of the book – one for you and one for a friend/colleague who you know needs it too!

In between times, take a copy of Principle 5 and use it to guide your next review and/or interview…

Kay White’s book It’s Always Your Move is an absolute must read for any woman wishing to progress their career. I wish both Kay and her books were around at the start of my career! 100% recommended.”

Vanessa Vallely OBE, Founder & MD WeAreTheCity

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Ownership – You Must OWN Your Skills & Experience

‘Career progression often depends on taking risks and advocating for oneself – traits that girls are discouraged from exhibiting.’ ~ Sheryl Sandberg

Taking ownership and acknowledging your own part in results is crucial to your visibility, confidence and others’ confidence in you. Along the lines of receiving rewards and putting yourself forward for financial recognition, taking ownership and staking your claim to results is key to your own personal expansion.

Women tend to be very generous to everyone else when talking about and demonstrating the results and levels of success in their team. “The team were amazing on the ABC Project and their commitment to get the job done never waivered” or “Bob really stepped up and made it happen.” Yet, if someone actually tries to acknowledge a woman as the successful contributor, she often brushes it off or accredits the success to someone or something else – a boss, a colleague, team, market conditions, timing or luck.

Do you do this? If so, it is so unfair on you. It is part of our expansion to allow our own success to shine through. You don’t have to be a selfish show-off. Let’s be honest, we all know one or two of those who takes credit for themselves.

However, we can include our input into the feedback, updates and lessons about work we’re involved in without being a show-off. In Principle 3 of my new book ‘It’s Always Your Move’, I’m going to give you structures to be able to say things in a way that is both comfortable and allows your part to shine. For now, just think about how comfortable you are with owning your own success, input and contribution.

I believe a factor which comes into play in owning your own success is the natural tendency women have for collaboration and collaborative relationships. It’s primal, and I love that we’re like this. However, for the purposes of your own career success, you need to be able to toot your own horn without blowing your own trumpet. If you don’t, others will question your ability to operate on your own instincts, produce results and own your skills, experience and wisdom. We want you to be brilliant – not shy away but to show us what you’re capable of doing. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being real. Sometimes the best lessons are when things ‘hit the fan’ …

It can sound like this: “Yes, Project ABC was tough. One of my biggest lessons when we hit a wall on the budgets was to go back to the drawing board. I pulled in a few favours from the finance team to check all our numbers and spending levels and then made the decision to reduce the amount of overtime authorised. It focussed our minds and I’m proud that we brought the project in under budget. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is to constantly check the numbers rather than let the excitement of the project run away with us.” See what I mean. You’re showing up without showing off.

Of course, the paragraph above is fictitious, but you can sense there’s a level of me and us in there which is comfortable, informative and truthful as far as how you own your part in the success and outcome of something. There’s a level of risk, naturally, of putting yourself squarely in the frame. But I believe the risk is far greater by undervaluing or underplaying your part in things. Your sense of yourself and how rooted you feel in your experience comes from acknowledging you actually have the experience. A lot of it, in fact.

(Extracted from Principle 1 – Embrace Your Expansion from my forthcoming book ‘It’s Always Your Move’ Purposeful Progress for Corporate Career Women, featuring The 8 Principles of Your Career Success CycleTM available from 4th October 2018)

I’d love to hear what you think. You can leave me a comment or a note here.

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“Article reproduced with permission of Kay White, Savvy & Influential Communication Expert and Mentor at www.kaywhite.com.

Kay shows experienced – and often frustrated – business women (and very smart men) how to be heard and understood by accessorising their day-to-day interactions with subtle, influential phrases and words to make people sit up, listen and take action. Kay’s book, The A to Z of Being Understood is an international #1 Bestseller: http://amzn.to/kTJYdX and helps professionals make their voices heard and their conversations really count.”

To see any previous issues of this eZine or comment on an article, please go to www.kaywhite.com (you’ll find the link to previous eZines on the Blog page, on the right). I’m always interested to hear from you.

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“Kay’s committed to you getting what YOU need.”

“I came to Kay’s Event “Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard” because someone I know has undergone MASSIVE changes as a result of being here last year. I’m at the point where I need to do the same thing so I was there to learn how to make these changes I want.

Kay is an amazing host and it feels like we have a 100% of her 100% of the time. She’s committed to you getting what YOU need. I’m energised by what I’ve learned and I’m ready to go off an apply what I’ve learned straight away.

Kay doesn’t do ‘normal’ corporate training – it’s extraordinary and you owe it to yourself to have this boost of confidence, courage and certainty in yourself.”


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D is for Dal – Driven, Direct, Dynamic

For 3 more of these sort of positive, punchy and powerful words go to: www.kaywhite.com and find today’s words at the bottom of the page. They’re there to motivate, inspire, compel both you and those around you as you use them every day AND, see below for your Power List.

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Plan and Presume Your Moves!

As a professional woman in business it’s definitely time to expect – rather than hope for – that promotion. At the very least, the opportunity to be in the frame for promotion, which is so often what women leave to chance by hoping or hinting. Phrases like “Why wasn’t I put forward for that?” My question is always “How did they know you wanted it?” 

One of the ways is to presume using language like “knowing we’re supporting more women in management” or “understanding the spectre of quotas for women in management are on the horizon, how can I best contribute to ….” And fill in the blanks.

I’ve lots of things planned to help you plan your moves in a more tactical way on the horizon at my Book Launch Event in October but, for now, notice what you notice and scatter and sow some seeds %$firstname$%!


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Savvy Style & Sparkle Soundbite

Wear your name badge where it can be seen!

Simple and so effective. When you go to an event, a networking evening, a meeting and a name badge is given to you, which side do you pin it? I used to – and most other people still do – pin it on the left side. I did, until someone told me this simple step.

Pin it on your right-hand side instead. Just below your shoulder on your right. Why? Because when you extend your hand to greet someone and introduce yourself, their eyes are naturally heading towards your right shoulder, which is also naturally heading towards them. They can immediately see your name and hear your name at the same time. It’s easier for them to remember your name.

Aha, see. I told you it was simple and effective and %$firstname$% by helping other people to remember your name, it simply helps you to stay on their radar assuming, of course, you want to!

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About Kay

Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert for Ambitious Women in Business, Kay mentors and coaches professional women who want to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ‘sell their soul’.

Running her own multiple 6-figure coaching & mentoring business for over 10 years, Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity while being true to themselves.

Kay’s clients learn how to present themselves most effectively at work and to combine strategic, planned career move-making steps with influencing skills. She also teaches compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets around, for example, money, ambition and worthiness. She draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the male-dominated world of London insurance broking. Kay started her career at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director, having also worked for the company in Paris, to start her own coaching business. Some of her ex-colleagues have become clients and Kay still speaks French – now more enthusiastically than fluently.

Comfortable on her feet, Kay regularly hosts Live Events (for 5 years, her annual 3-Day Live Event – Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE – has shown corporate career women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards, all without selling their souls). Stay tuned for news about a suite of Day of Magic Experience Events for 2018.

Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and soon to be launched “It’s Always Your Move” you can connect and find out more from Kay at: www.kaywhite.com

Living close to London with rescue sighthounds, Jeffrey, Pharaoh & DeeDee, much of Kay’s inspiration comes from walking ‘the hounds’ as she calls them – whatever the UK weather – early in the mornings in the local countryside.

Kay’s husband says she’s the Pack Leader and he knows he’s part of the pack.

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