Just because something was lovely, worked well for you, felt right, felt a fit…doesn’t mean to say it always will.

“Errr, yes – of course Kay” of course it doesn’t.  Things change around us, we change, the focus, the relevance…all change, whether we notice or not.

It’s easy to get stuck on the hamster wheel of thinking you have to do, like, be, engage with the things you always have and forget everythingshifts, naturally, all the time.

• Relationships shifts.
• What pleases you shifts.
• What interests you shifts.
• Who interests you shifts etc etc.
• This is obvious but stick with me a moment longer.

If you don’t look up and notice what you’re noticing about your surroundings, your interests, your colleagues, your energy, your commitment then you maybe heading for a nasty wake up call.

• You can find yourself on the outside looking in.
• You can find yourself sounding or seeming irrelevant in the culture we find ourselves
• You can keep chasing something you actually no longer want.
• This has happened to a couple of clients recently.

What they were chasing at work has shifted.  

The promotion which seemed so critical no longer matters in the same way.

The reasons they were so focussed and amenable shifted and they didn’t notice.  Not overtly.

I asked “What’s changed about XYZ which means it no longer excites or interests you?”

They both said in their own way “What’s important to me has changed.”

So this is to encourage you to really pay close attention to what it is that might be less engaging, interesting, relevant to you and be prepared to shift.

Shift gears in another direction which feels more relevant to you now.  

This isn’t meant to do anything else but to give you a friendly, assertive ‘prod’ so you don’t hang about out and about in a world which either no longer exists or interests you…or both!

Or in someone else’s words…

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And in other news…

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In relationships both professional AND personal, we can overstay long after the relevance has shifted.  Go where you are celebrated and don’t wait around to be asked!