When Snowy told me that Taylor Hawkins had died last weekend, I was so shocked.
He was only 50 and appeared to be at the absolute top of his game. Drummer in the number 1 rock band in the world for near 20 years – Foo Fighters. Living his dream and on the South American leg of their World tour. Husband and Dad of three.
I didn’t know him of course but I studied him with my Drum Teacher.
We used to look at how he did his ‘tub thumping‘ as it can be called and I used to just be in awe of it. My own drumming prowess being somewhat less frantic and wild…but I loved doing it anyway.
It’s been strange to notice how upset I’ve been – the loss, the waste, the broken hearted friends and family AND how angry I became too.
Drugs, prescriptions, bad decisions. Why? How could you? etc.
But here’s the thing I come back to.
None of us know how someone else is truly feeling – sometimes they don’t either…
To be outwardly successful and at the top of your game doesn’t mean you have to be ‘happy’ – in fact sometimes it’s the opposite.
So, I took myself in hand and let go of the anger and turned it into empathy. We can all mask what’s going on for us when we’re struggling and I know I do at times. Don’t you?
As one of my favourite T-shirts says “In a world where you can be anything, always be kind.”
In other news…
Jeffrey went to have a heart check up after his open-heart surgery in January. You can see him here, in the middle, looking bright eyed. His Surgeon is thrilled with his progress.
Snowy and I had some sunny seaside strolls last weekend – just before it started snowing here this week!