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Sit down. Breathe. Write. Repeat...Contain it
Instead of the perfunctory "Hi, how are you?" question (which drives me nuts and I do my best to avoid answering) I always recommend containing the question by just asking "Hi, how are you today?" It's such a different energy. You actually sound interested and...
Buying Time
I very rarely answer a question if I don't want to. Not straight out of the gate. There's a thought that says if you're asked a question you should answer it but my thinking is different. If I'm asked a question and I want to answer it, I will. If I don't,...
Being Right
"Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?" This was a question posed to a client when seeking marriage guidance and I've always remembered it. The intention isn't to rollover and never stand your ground about things. It's more to do with...
Shhhh
How comfortable are you with silence? Some people can't bear the thought of it. TV and/or radio on as quickly as possible. Leaving them on whilst being at home or in the car. Nothing wrong and no judgement from me. Just the observation that there is...
Why?
‘Why’ is such a small and yet impactful word to notice, to understand and to be aware of as you use it. Really, why? Well, it does two things very quickly, immediately in fact. Two things you want to avoid. One, it sends people straight to the...
Celebration
"So how are you going to celebrate Kay?" was the question which immediately made me stop in my tracks! I'd just told a client group how I'd finished a 6 month contract working with Board Directors and all sessions had to be scheduled and delivered by 31st March....
White Flag
When a client said it to me I knew exactly what she meant along the lines of "Sometimes Kay you just have to wave the white flag, surrender and give in to the moment rather than fight it or fight on..." I knew exactly what she meant and I'm sure you do too. There are...
Not Sorry
Hmmm, in the time I have had to dedicate to it this week my weekly eZine got pushed down the queue but one of the things I do know is I commit to writing to you each week and I appreciate the feedback I get and the practice it gives me to keep my writing muscle...
Push Back
It's a tricky old balance being friends at work and actually getting stuff done. One of my clients was telling me how, with my encouragement and support, she's stopped rolling over, extending deadlines and being as malleable as she had been. She's really started to...
Lead In
Snowy has always been slightly in awe of my lead-in time and preparations. Until he started benefitting from them! We call it "working it back" or "reverse engineering our way" and it works for us - here's how. You know you want to be on the train, unruffled and...