When Jane asked me “How do I stop people’s negativity from bringing me down?” she meant it with the best intention.
Jane is in a senior position where she is often the brunt of people’s frustration or indignation and, as such, she’s finding she takes on too much of the emotion.
Her question then is a good one .
So, how do you stop people’s negativity from bringing you down?
- We can’t control what people say nor think. As much as we’d like to or think we can. We can’t.
- What we can do though is consider what we’re going to let in.
- What we’ll take on or allow to affect us.
So, something I was taught many years ago is to use a Bell Jar. Effectively to put myself into a Bell Jar.
At Christmas time with all the emotions and conversations you might be involved with, like them or not, you might decide to pop yourself into a Bell Jar too….
Let me explain. Instead of trying to drown out what you hear, disagree, explain your point of view etc. (which often is a waste of energy) just pop your Bell Jar on around you.
In your head, you can see everything, hear everything and yet – all the things you won’t like or don’t want to hear or that sound so “blah, blah, blah unprecedented year” etc – ping off your Bell Jar.
You are inside, repelling anything you don’t want to penetrate your zone of inner peace to affect, irritate or wind you up!
, clearly you can take your Bell Jar with you all over the place. I know I do.
A client said to me recently “Oh Kay, I spent my whole company Goal Setting day inside my Bell Jar and it made a HUGE difference.“
Try it for yourself. It may sound a bit ‘woo woo’ but that’s OK. It works…
Weekly eZines will resume on Friday 7th January 2022. I’m pressing PAUSE on a number of things as, indeed, I hope you are too…
In other news…
Snowy took up cooking during 2020 and this is his second Christmas cake, made from scratch! He’s the Snowman and I’m the ballerina – of course