“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.”
~ Nora Roberts
You’ve been offered the role, opportunity or the promotion.
- Do you say yes and go for it?
- Do you vacillate and wonder whether you can do it?
- Do you accept the offer package or negotiate more for yourself?
- At this moment of power and decision-making, what are you going to do?
Sometimes, we can be a bit shocked when we’re actually offered what we’ve gone after.
All along the process, you may say that you’re doing it for the practice or “I’ll never get it.”
You’re often wrong. So you’re not quite prepared when the offer doescome. When they do say “Yes, let’s do it “
Let’s prepare you for when your offer does come.
We naturally want to avoid feeling out of our depth, not knowing things, feeling vulnerable. It is, however, where the magic is for the most part…it stretches us.
Here’s the discussion I often have with clients when they are in a state of fear and excitement after they have been offered a new role or promotion:
“So, you’ve been offered the role and now you’re scared about what it takes, how to resign, how to negotiate, and whether you can actually do what’s expected of you.
Let’s say the company calls you and thanks you sincerely for undertaking the process; however, they’ve actually decided to recruit someone else.
How do you feel if the role is no longer yours for the taking?”
If your response is “really disappointed and more than a bit fed up” or words stronger than that, then this indicates a natural sense of caution.
Since your response indicates disappointment, you need to acknowledge your fear and, as Susan Jeffers famously said, “Feel the fear and do it anyway”.
Conversely , if your response is “actually, really, really relieved,” then you must to pay attention to this also.
If it’s true relief, then ask yourself what that’s about and if this is the role or opportunity for you.
In other news…
A school reunion last weekend was SUCH fun. Many of us hadn’t seen each other for nearly 40 years as we gathered in a bar in London. So lovely to see and hear each other’s news. (I’m row 3, 3rd from the left in the black & white and, being 6ft tall, at the back in the colour one!)