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Contributing to other Blogs, articles also regularly appear on WeAreTheCity.com, the networking and news hub for City women as well as industry related blogs – eg. recruitment agency and freelancers. I believe writing to connect is a gift and I walk the talk by continuing to write. My Newsletter / eZine ‘Positive Linking’ has been issued and sent out to my thousands of subscribers every other week for 4 years without missing an issue! (Back issues can be seen by following the link on the right of this page.)

Slow Things Down and Save Time

Respond rather than react (and save precious time, money and energy)
Slow down to speed things up. Yes, I know – it’s a dichotomy (a polar opposite, a contrariety) to say you have to slow down to speed things up. Well it’s true.
So often we think we have to decide on the spot; say “yes” or “no” in the moment and know all the answers to the questions we’re asked. Well, we’re actually making things harder for ourselves and harder on ourselves if we believe that to [...]

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How “Out of the Office” are YOU?

How to show up and sparkle at work – even when you’re on holiday.
“It’s the dilemma that’s so common now – when you’re “Out of the Office” just how “Out” of the office are you?
With the holiday season upon us, this is a timely way to plan your exit strategy and still look after your connections.
Having collected some ‘jaw-droppingly bad’ Out-of-Office bouncebacks over the years (best one: “I’m away from the office so contact me again on my retur[...]

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Are You “Should-ing” All Over Everyone?

3 Easier Ways for People to Take On Your Advice
“Now, what you should do is…” “Well, it’s obvious, you should do this, then you should do that and then you should tell them you’ve done it”.
Should do. What you should do and what you want to and actually do are often very different things. Even if the advice we’ve been given is spot on, the fact that we’ve been told we ‘should’ do it is often the very reason we don’t. So if that’s the reaction we have, it[...]

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Be a 5 year old again. I dare you.

A quick question to get to the heart of what’s going on.

This was one of a few key questions I asked a group of CEOs and senior directors I worked with recently as we focused on communicating with influence. This question, as basic as it sounds, really helps people boil down what’s actually going on and separate it from the “stuff”. It’s one of the secrets of great communication – keeping things simple.

Here’s the question. “If I was only 5 years old and you had [...]

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How often are you up close – and personal?

There’s no substitute for the ‘LIVE’ or personalised version of You

It’s easy to get lulled into this false sense of reality isn’t it?

Instead of picking up the phone to speak to someone, you drop them an email or send them a message or a text. Instead of dropping someone a note, you can instant message, Skype message or send them an eCard. Instead of going to a networking event, social gathering, exhibition or event, you can show up online. All of these ways of being[...]

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Watch Your Pace When Speaking

It affects IF or HOW people listen to you.

Pace, what do I mean by that?

It’s about your rate and your speed of delivery. So many clients of mine race through their content, their ideas, their input and, the truth is, a lot of the time they’ll be tuned out by those who they need to listen to them most.

People lose interests, they can’t process the information quickly enough so lose your thread, they aren’t given enough time or interest to stay tuned in. It makes a[...]

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Adjust Yourself To Where You Find Yourself

The new ‘normal’ is always shifting

Here are 3 key lessons I’ve learned from adopting Jeffrey Hound, our newest rescue sighthound. The lessons cross over into our lives and, I believe, especially when you’re starting a new role or a job inside a new organisation. You become a learner and you notice - or you should - everything!

What do I mean by that? Well, let me show you how Jeffrey has taught me lessons which I know will help you at work as you step up and go for new,[...]

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How to Embrace the Challenge of Change

Go with the flow of the opportunities.

It’s one of my go-to books. Each year I read ‘Who Moved My Cheese’ by Ken Blanchard which reminds me how to recognise change and expect it. Not to sit like a rabbit in the headlights and hold my head saying things aren’t fair.

Well, one of the only things you can rely on is that everything is shifting and changing all the time.

Relationships, market conditions, policies, who’s who, technology and why are we surprised?

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What’s your “unfair” advantage (and do you even know about it)?

 Working with career women keen to raise their visibility and influence at work, this is one of the first places I start with them. "Let’s find your unfair advantage or your Secret Sauce” I say. I start with this question.
“What is it about you or what has happened in your life that you’ve struggled with?” The reason I ask this question is that it’s often exactly these sorts of things that actually make us who we are and – if we recognise them – become an “unfair” a[...]

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How & Why To Take A Chance on Yourself

Say “Yes” before you’re ready and then get ready...
There are so many ways to say something and every way means something different to your listener as you say it. Imagine you’re in a meeting and someone asks if anyone is able to take on a new project or put some figures together. You think to yourself, ‘I could probably do that’ but you may sit on that thought and say nothing and wait for someone else to offer or you may put yourself forward. The trick here is, if - or let'[...]

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