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Contributing to other Blogs, articles also regularly appear on WeAreTheCity.com, the networking and news hub for City women as well as industry related blogs – eg. recruitment agency and freelancers. I believe writing to connect is a gift and I walk the talk by continuing to write. My Newsletter / eZine ‘Positive Linking’ has been issued and sent out to my thousands of subscribers every other week for 4 years without missing an issue! (Back issues can be seen by following the link on the right of this page.)

Gratitude: 2 Small Words Change Everything

It’s such a small thing to say ‘thank you’ and these two small words cost you absolutely nothing and yet make a huge difference to if and how people remember you – and respond to you. Thanking people is often the difference that makes the difference as to whether people do what you want, get back to you, take on your opinion and it certainly affects the actual way they do what you ask them to.

To be noticed and remembered for the right reasons, we need to make people feel appre[...]

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Do you ride your emotions?

Or are you at their mercy?
It was the start of a meeting with a potential new client. We sat discussing what was going on with his team and why some of the key people were avoiding communicating with each other. Let’s call him John, he said something along the lines of ‘well, we’ve brought you in Kay because it’s probably all about the touchy, feely stuff and I don’t do that’.
‘You don’t do that?’ I said, risking, I suppose, being shown the door, ‘You don’t [...]

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Practice Your Pillow Talk.

Give clear, distinct messages at work (and home)
It’s so easy to lose your message, your audience, their attention, their trust by using ‘weasel’ words. By using ‘gobbledeegook’ if you will – and it’s everywhere, like an epidemic.

With the pace of information being shared, the cultures which must be crossed and included in our messages, and the turbulent times we’re navigating at the moment, the need to be as clear as possible is more vital than ever.

Think[...]

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Learning From Our Teachers

There's always a lesson (and a teacher) if you look

It’s easy isn’t it, to associate being taught and having teachers to being at school? Who wants to think of themselves at school all their life and yet, in reality, we are. I know I am.

Someone once said to me “Kay, every day’s a school day” and on some level it’s true. Now whilst you might not have enjoyed your school days and so this idea would be horrifying, it’s more about the act of learning, of continuing to[...]

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Slow Things Down and Save Time

Respond rather than react (and save precious time, money and energy)
Slow down to speed things up. Yes, I know – it’s a dichotomy (a polar opposite, a contrariety) to say you have to slow down to speed things up. Well it’s true.
So often we think we have to decide on the spot; say “yes” or “no” in the moment and know all the answers to the questions we’re asked. Well, we’re actually making things harder for ourselves and harder on ourselves if we believe that to [...]

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How “Out of the Office” are YOU?

How to show up and sparkle at work – even when you’re on holiday.
“It’s the dilemma that’s so common now – when you’re “Out of the Office” just how “Out” of the office are you?
With the holiday season upon us, this is a timely way to plan your exit strategy and still look after your connections.
Having collected some ‘jaw-droppingly bad’ Out-of-Office bouncebacks over the years (best one: “I’m away from the office so contact me again on my retur[...]

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Are You “Should-ing” All Over Everyone?

3 Easier Ways for People to Take On Your Advice
“Now, what you should do is…” “Well, it’s obvious, you should do this, then you should do that and then you should tell them you’ve done it”.
Should do. What you should do and what you want to and actually do are often very different things. Even if the advice we’ve been given is spot on, the fact that we’ve been told we ‘should’ do it is often the very reason we don’t. So if that’s the reaction we have, it[...]

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Be a 5 year old again. I dare you.

A quick question to get to the heart of what’s going on.

This was one of a few key questions I asked a group of CEOs and senior directors I worked with recently as we focused on communicating with influence. This question, as basic as it sounds, really helps people boil down what’s actually going on and separate it from the “stuff”. It’s one of the secrets of great communication – keeping things simple.

Here’s the question. “If I was only 5 years old and you had [...]

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How often are you up close – and personal?

There’s no substitute for the ‘LIVE’ or personalised version of You

It’s easy to get lulled into this false sense of reality isn’t it?

Instead of picking up the phone to speak to someone, you drop them an email or send them a message or a text. Instead of dropping someone a note, you can instant message, Skype message or send them an eCard. Instead of going to a networking event, social gathering, exhibition or event, you can show up online. All of these ways of being[...]

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Watch Your Pace When Speaking

It affects IF or HOW people listen to you.

Pace, what do I mean by that?

It’s about your rate and your speed of delivery. So many clients of mine race through their content, their ideas, their input and, the truth is, a lot of the time they’ll be tuned out by those who they need to listen to them most.

People lose interests, they can’t process the information quickly enough so lose your thread, they aren’t given enough time or interest to stay tuned in. It makes a[...]

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