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How to zip-it and give yourself breathing space
This is a tricky one for so many of us. Wait. Pause. Think a bit. Choose if you’re going to act; to respond. To ‘Zip it’ is such a useful little phrase and it’s easy to remember.
It’s so easy to assume we have to respond, to fire back after receiving a message, a phone call, and an email and just respond – straight away. Either ‘shooting from the lip’ or, when writing, ‘shooting from the fingertip’.
Decide what works for you and then, politely go.
Have you ever said “Yes OK” when you know you mean “No way”? Well, I know I have and now, I rarely do.
Listening to a group of experienced, professional and successful women recently, the discussion was around how to go off to bed, go off and exercise, go off and be quiet, go off and sleep when you want to when you’re away on business. If you’re out either socialising or out at a work-related engagement, the question [...]
Remember your brilliance so others can reward you for it.
If you’ve ever heard yourself say any of the following, it gives us a sign you’ve forgotten some of the things that you’re really good at or you’ve forgotten some of the key pieces of your career and life journey.
If you ever think these things and then you don’t speak, you’ll know you’re undervaluing yourself or being undervalued or underselling yourself.
“I want to be taken more seriously”
It affects IF or HOW people listen to you.
Pace, what do I mean by that?
Being used to hosting webinars, tele seminars and Live Events, so much is about your rate and your speed of delivery. So many clients of mine race through their content, their ideas, their input and, the truth is, a lot of the time they’ll be tuned out by those who they need to listen to them most.
People lose interests, they can’t process the information quickly enough so lose your thread, they a[...]
The lessons are everywhere. Just notice.
It’s such a small thing to say ‘thank you’ and these two small words cost you absolutely nothing and yet make a huge difference to if and how people remember you – and respond to you. Thanking people is often the difference that makes the difference as to whether people do what you want, get back to you, take on your opinion and it certainly affects the actual way they do what you ask them to.
To be noticed and remembered for the[...]
The lessons are everywhere. Just notice.
Dear Bolly may have passed on 3 years ago this month and it may sound whimsical or indulgent to share with you career success traits which I’ve learned from our hound but, I am. On a number of levels, I realise how many lessons we’ve learned having been owned by a dog for over 16 years and also realise what novices we were when we first rescued Bolly (or did he rescue us?) in 2002.
You can see on the day we took him into our home how [...]
Go with the flow of the opportunities and rise to meet them as they arrive.
It’s one of my go-to books. Each year I read ‘Who Moved My Cheese’ by Ken Blanchard which reminds me how to recognise change and expect it. Not to sit like a rabbit in the headlights and hold my head saying things aren’t fair.
Well, one of the only things you can rely on is that everything is shifting and changing all the time.
Relationships, market conditions, policies, who’s who, techn[...]
‘Career progression often depends on taking risks and advocating for oneself – traits that girls are discouraged from exhibiting.’ ~ Sheryl Sandberg
Taking ownership and acknowledging your own part in results is crucial to your visibility, confidence and others’ confidence in you. Along the lines of receiving rewards and putting yourself forward for financial recognition, taking ownership and staking your claim to results is key to your own personal expansion.
‘You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.’
~ A. A. Milne in ‘Winnie The Pooh’
You know how it is when someone asks you to talk about recent successes and you stare back at them blankly? Or when you’re coming up to your crucial personal review time and you’re scrambling to remember what’s happened over the year? Or what about when – yikes – you finally decide it’s time to update or actually create your CV or resume? Do[...]
3 Easier Ways for People to Take On Your Advice
“Now, what you should do is…” “Well, it’s obvious, you should do this, then you should do that and then you should tell them you’ve done it”.
Should do. What you should do and what you want to and actually do are often very different things. Even if the advice we’ve been given is spot on, the fact that we’ve been told we ‘should’ do it is often the very reason we don’t. So if that’s the reaction we have, i[...]